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Loneliness at Christmas

Reframing loneliness during the Christmas holiday period

The Christmas festive season is often portrayed as a time of togetherness, joy, and celebration. However, this time of year can intensify feelings of isolation and loneliness for some individuals. Onebright explores how reframing loneliness can help them feel empowered as they find ways to navigate it.

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Loneliness does not discriminate - it can affect anyone, regardless of age, gender, or social status. Studies have shown that loneliness is becoming increasingly prevalent in modern society, with approximately 33% of adults worldwide reporting feeling lonely or socially isolated. The holiday season can exacerbate these feelings as some individuals face Christmas alone.

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Why is Christmas a particularly hard time for some people?

The holiday season is usually a time for families to come together and spend some much-needed ‘quality time’.

Media representations are awash with seemingly happy families having fun together. With more time on their hands, some people may feel more vulnerable at this time of year as they reflect on their different situations.

What can cause people to feel lonely? Maybe they have suffered a loss, and those feelings are more prominent at Christmas. Or perhaps loneliness comes from a fractured family and a less-than-harmonious family unit that affects an individual’s sense of belonging. The cost of living may mean the holiday season budget is lower than average, triggering feelings of inadequacy.

Whatever the reason, there is a way to reframe loneliness so it isn’t overwhelming.

Loneliness starts with our thoughts

Firstly, it’s essential to acknowledge that loneliness comes from our thoughts. The good news is that it’s possible to change our thoughts.

Why is this important? Practising thought reframing can enhance your understanding of the intricate relationship between your thoughts, emotions, and actions. Identifying and transforming unconstructive thinking patterns can lead to an improved sense of well-being. Consequently, you will be better equipped to navigate the obstacles that arise in life. This newfound ability may empower you to cope with feelings of loneliness.

Intercepting our thought process is key to changing behaviours, helping us stay connected throughout the holiday season. How can you start intercepting those thought patterns?

One effective approach is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), which focuses on identifying and challenging negative thought patterns that contribute to feelings of loneliness. CBT helps individuals reframe their thoughts and beliefs.

How does it do this? CBT can help you replace thoughts that make you feel lonely with more positive and empowering ones.

Individuals can begin cultivating a sense of hope and resilience by recognising that loneliness is temporary and not permanent.

Through CBT, therapists can also encourage individuals to engage in activities that promote connection and socialisation.

This may involve:

  • Reaching out to friends or family members.

  • Joining community groups or clubs and making some homemade gifts.

  • Volunteering for a charity providing Christmas meals.

  • Accepting invitations.

By actively seeking out opportunities for social interaction, individuals can expand their social networks and combat feelings of loneliness.

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CBT for managing thoughts and feelings

CBT is a valuable tool in reframing loneliness. It can help you become more aware of your thoughts and how they make you feel, giving you the power to change them. However, it is essential to recognise that seeking professional help is not a sign of weakness but rather a courageous and proactive step towards improving mental well-being.

Online therapy has become increasingly popular and accessible, providing individuals with a convenient and confidential platform to receive support from licensed therapists.

Benefits of online therapy for loneliness

Online therapy can provide a safe and non-judgmental space for individuals to explore their feelings of loneliness and develop coping strategies. Having someone to talk to can help guide you through feelings of loneliness, creating a healthier mindset and lifestyle. With your therapist, you can create a plan for navigating your feelings for a happier journey throughout the holiday season.

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Article history

The information on this page is peer reviewed by qualified clinicians.

  • Next review due: 9 Dec 2025
  • 9 Dec 2025 | Originally published

    Authored by:

    Onebright

    Peer reviewed by

    Dr Colin Tidy, MRCGP
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